TO BUY THE UNBUYABLE- NEW FAMILY- NEW LIFE
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IBAN: PL22109017820000000134127171 (z Polski tylko nr konta 22109017820000000134127171)
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Bank: Santander Bank Polska S.A., al. Jana Pawła II 17, 00-854 Warszawa,Poland
Nowadays, it is more than important to still hope and dream. Therefore, asking for the UNBUYABLE things seems justified. We've never asked for anything before - on the contrary - we help other people as much as we can. But now we ask YOU to help us to fulfil our dream- to buy TIME and let us save our kids.
5 years ago we decided to ADOPT 3 kids from Children's Home. They were cursed with spending their whole childhood without love, hope and support because in Poland you don't get any financial help when you adopt a child. Consequently, those siblings had no chance to find any real home. We bought a piece of land, built a house with a beautiful blue roof (finishing it off mainly by ourselves- we can even start an amateur company:), planted a small forest and an orchard, built a large playground- and took our kids home. We are both high school teachers so we don't earn much (each of us about 570 €-$650-610 CHF a month) but we are smart, healthy and hard-working so we thought we can manage to bring up our wonderful kids- Tom (1,5y), John (2,5y) and Kate (7,5y). Our adoption agency ensured us that the kids are HEALTHY.
Unfortunately after 2 years it turned out that our children's disorders are more serious than we expected. Tom and John were diagnosed with autism and FAS- Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (Tom- full spectrum, John- part spectrum- more about FAS below), and Kate with part spectrum FAS and RAD- Reactive Attachment Disorder (currently we have to control her all the time- she wants to kill herself). Hard as it is to believe, but in Poland kids with FAS and RAD don't get ANY help- we were told that the authorities would help our sons when they commit their first crimes! Nevertheless we didn't give up- we went over hundreds of scientific articles in U.S magazines and tried to increase our kids' chances. Now we have only one problem- our mortgage. We had to take it out because owning a house was a firm condition to be able to take our kids home. We dealt with payments for the first years but when it turned out that our kids suffer from various illnesses the whole situation worsened. One repayment takes 1 whole salary and we can't afford more effective treatment. Of course we're getting along- we both work full-time, we take extra jobs at weekends, grow our own crops (potatoes, carrots, etc), we've even stared a small apiary called "Under the Blue Roof" but because of that we have less and less time for our kids what makes them miserable. We are spending vast amount of money on private healthcare because our kids need to be under medical supervision of ophthalmologist (eyesight problems), laryngologist (hearing and tonsils problems), neurologist (brain damage), allergist (only Tom), urologist (John's birth defect), psychiatrist (FAS, RAD, autism), orthopaedist (lordosis, talipes valgus- foot defect, special boots), nephrologist (Tom's birth defect) and UPDATE now Kate (various pedagogues, psychologists, psychotherapists, psychiatrists- of course only private appointments- the first free public appointment with a psychiatrist and a psychologist was available in 8 months time! But she needs help NOW!) but we don't complain- our children deserve the best future possible. We are a bit afraid that we won't be able to give them the best care because of that mortgage. Frankly speaking, we do our best to be home-made speech therapists, physiotherapists, psychotherapists and in the same time caring and loving parents, but sometimes it is too much- we could really do with some professional help. There are no grandparents- our wonderful parents passed away a long time ago or any other people who could be trusted not to harm our children. We built that house for them- this is their legacy and financial protection when we will be gone forever but clearing the mortgage steals the precious TIME we could devote to our children- without TIME all the effort may render pointless. If you want and can help us- we will be very grateful. Maybe you can tell your friends about our crazy family from a small village in Poland who is trying to win a better future for their fantastic children!
Read more about our family!
ABOUT OUR KIDS:
Tom (adopted- 1,5y, now 7y)- when he was 6 months old when his biological father threw him against the wall, later he was starved and hit. He didn't talk, he didn't look at anybody, he was extremely aggressive. NOW- when we finally, after years of searching, diagnosed him (FASD and autism) everything changed. We know how to make his life easier, how to handle him. Tom HUGS! Tom MISSES! Tom REMEMBERS! Tom LOVES! One year ago he couldn't remember that he was in a kindergarten- now he can memorize a short poem! Despite brain damage, he lives his life happily. We have to keep an eye on him all the time- he is like a two-year-old kid and he doesn't learn from experience- if he cuts himself with a knife, he will do it again and again. He is the most adorable kid ever! We hope that one day he will learn how to read (December 2020 update- he recognizes 14 letters!!!) and write, maybe even ride a bike (it's his dream). He is very talented in construction.
John (adopted- 2,5y, now 8y)- he was starved and hit, he didn't talk, he hurt himself by hitting his head against the wall, he didn't looked at anybody, he screamed when we tried to touch him. NOW John HUGS! John TALKS! John SMILES! John LOVES! Although his speech is not very good- he can communicate. He is able to read a sentence, he is good at counting, summing and subtracting. His first word when he was 3,5 was COCONUT- because I used to put a coconut oil onto his entire body 5 times a day to reduce the pain caused by severe atopic dermatitis. He is the most open-hearted kid ever- he will give you everything just to make you smile. He looks into people's eyes! He can't stop moving because of his hyperactivity, FAS and autism, but we train every day to let his body and brain rest for a while. This year he was operated because of urine bladder birth defect but he was extremely brave as always. He is still obsessed with food but now he doesn't cry in front of the fridge as he used to. I always have to cook a large amount of everything- just to make him sure that the food will always be there. Last autumn he asked if we had prepared enough food because winter is coming:)
Kate (adopted- 7,5y, now 12,5y)- she was starved and hit with hard objects, she couldn't read and write, she was mean, manipulative and extremely aggressive (especially towards her little brothers- she used to punch them in the face, kick and hurt). NOW Kate is an average teenager! She answers back, doesn't tidy up her room, listens to pop music, has "problems"- what to wear to look good, maybe I am too fat, etc :) At the same time she behaves like a little girl whose girlhood was stolen- she plays with dolls, likes to be hugged and treated as a little kid. We love it! She loves reading- the biggest punishment is a threat of signing her out from the library. UPDATE- recently Kate has met her worst enemy- REGRESSION and she returned to earlier stage of development. Being one of the best students in her school- eager to learn, asking us for help, dreaming of being an architect, caring about other people- it is now over. She cuts her forearms, wants to kill herself, wants to harm her brothers, pushes us about, we look after her all the time- she spends no time alone due to her instable emotional state. BUT- YOU KNOW WHAT? We are fighting for her and we will always do!
ABOUT US
Anna (39y) and Dan (39y)- happily married, both high school teachers, both form tutors, both keen on books and good music, both engaged in volunteer work, both help everybody in need, both work with young people who trust them, both can't imagine living without being active and without love. We love our life though some people say that it must be very hard with our „special” children- but they are wrong. Our life is just different. Our kids don't wake up- they just open their eyes and start running all over the place. After 5 years they still shout "Mummy is coming" or "Daddy is coming" even if we are out for only 15 minutes. Sometimes we wonder if their main goal in life is to eat- they consume loads of everything and after every meal ask about the next one. Fortunately, Ann really likes cooking and she cooks healthy and well. We teach our kids how to share and help because they are now safe and there are so many other kids who are not and still suffer. Therefore our whole family engage in WOSP project- the biggest charity event in Poland. Every winter we collect money for sick children and the elderly. Anna is a blood donor and a potential blood stem cell donor. Dan loves nature and takes kids for a very long trips. Last summer he finished his project- he rebuilt the playground, because our kids wanted to have more fun-now the have a four-meter-high climbing wall, a fifty-meter-long aerial ropeslide, and many others:). We have 1 dog (also found abandoned near the river) and 7 cats which are constantly attacked with love especially by Tom.
FAS- Fetal alcohol spectrum are a group of conditions that can occur in a person whose mother drank alcohol during pregnancy. People with FAS can have problems with learning, memory, attention span, communication, vision, or hearing. They might have a mix of these problems. People with FAS often have a hard time in school and trouble getting along with others.
RAD- Reactive attachment disorder is a condition in which a child does not form a secure, healthy emotional bond with his or her primary caretakers (parental figures). Children with RAD often have trouble managing their emotions. They struggle to form meaningful connections with other people. They expressing ange, have tantrums, are irritable, unhappy and sad, disobedient.
Names have been changed to protect the family's safety.
Kinga donation
IBAN: PL22109017820000000134127171 (z Polski tylko nr konta 22109017820000000134127171)
SWIFT code: WBKPPLPP
Bank: Santander Bank Polska S.A., al. Jana Pawła II 17, 00-854 Warszawa,Poland
Nowadays, it is more than important to still hope and dream. Therefore, asking for the UNBUYABLE things seems justified. We've never asked for anything before - on the contrary - we help other people as much as we can. But now we ask YOU to help us to fulfil our dream- to buy TIME and let us save our kids.
5 years ago we decided to ADOPT 3 kids from Children's Home. They were cursed with spending their whole childhood without love, hope and support because in Poland you don't get any financial help when you adopt a child. Consequently, those siblings had no chance to find any real home. We bought a piece of land, built a house with a beautiful blue roof (finishing it off mainly by ourselves- we can even start an amateur company:), planted a small forest and an orchard, built a large playground- and took our kids home. We are both high school teachers so we don't earn much (each of us about 570 €-$650-610 CHF a month) but we are smart, healthy and hard-working so we thought we can manage to bring up our wonderful kids- Tom (1,5y), John (2,5y) and Kate (7,5y). Our adoption agency ensured us that the kids are HEALTHY.
Unfortunately after 2 years it turned out that our children's disorders are more serious than we expected. Tom and John were diagnosed with autism and FAS- Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (Tom- full spectrum, John- part spectrum- more about FAS below), and Kate with part spectrum FAS and RAD- Reactive Attachment Disorder (currently we have to control her all the time- she wants to kill herself). Hard as it is to believe, but in Poland kids with FAS and RAD don't get ANY help- we were told that the authorities would help our sons when they commit their first crimes! Nevertheless we didn't give up- we went over hundreds of scientific articles in U.S magazines and tried to increase our kids' chances. Now we have only one problem- our mortgage. We had to take it out because owning a house was a firm condition to be able to take our kids home. We dealt with payments for the first years but when it turned out that our kids suffer from various illnesses the whole situation worsened. One repayment takes 1 whole salary and we can't afford more effective treatment. Of course we're getting along- we both work full-time, we take extra jobs at weekends, grow our own crops (potatoes, carrots, etc), we've even stared a small apiary called "Under the Blue Roof" but because of that we have less and less time for our kids what makes them miserable. We are spending vast amount of money on private healthcare because our kids need to be under medical supervision of ophthalmologist (eyesight problems), laryngologist (hearing and tonsils problems), neurologist (brain damage), allergist (only Tom), urologist (John's birth defect), psychiatrist (FAS, RAD, autism), orthopaedist (lordosis, talipes valgus- foot defect, special boots), nephrologist (Tom's birth defect) and UPDATE now Kate (various pedagogues, psychologists, psychotherapists, psychiatrists- of course only private appointments- the first free public appointment with a psychiatrist and a psychologist was available in 8 months time! But she needs help NOW!) but we don't complain- our children deserve the best future possible. We are a bit afraid that we won't be able to give them the best care because of that mortgage. Frankly speaking, we do our best to be home-made speech therapists, physiotherapists, psychotherapists and in the same time caring and loving parents, but sometimes it is too much- we could really do with some professional help. There are no grandparents- our wonderful parents passed away a long time ago or any other people who could be trusted not to harm our children. We built that house for them- this is their legacy and financial protection when we will be gone forever but clearing the mortgage steals the precious TIME we could devote to our children- without TIME all the effort may render pointless. If you want and can help us- we will be very grateful. Maybe you can tell your friends about our crazy family from a small village in Poland who is trying to win a better future for their fantastic children!
Read more about our family!
ABOUT OUR KIDS:
Tom (adopted- 1,5y, now 7y)- when he was 6 months old when his biological father threw him against the wall, later he was starved and hit. He didn't talk, he didn't look at anybody, he was extremely aggressive. NOW- when we finally, after years of searching, diagnosed him (FASD and autism) everything changed. We know how to make his life easier, how to handle him. Tom HUGS! Tom MISSES! Tom REMEMBERS! Tom LOVES! One year ago he couldn't remember that he was in a kindergarten- now he can memorize a short poem! Despite brain damage, he lives his life happily. We have to keep an eye on him all the time- he is like a two-year-old kid and he doesn't learn from experience- if he cuts himself with a knife, he will do it again and again. He is the most adorable kid ever! We hope that one day he will learn how to read (December 2020 update- he recognizes 14 letters!!!) and write, maybe even ride a bike (it's his dream). He is very talented in construction.
John (adopted- 2,5y, now 8y)- he was starved and hit, he didn't talk, he hurt himself by hitting his head against the wall, he didn't looked at anybody, he screamed when we tried to touch him. NOW John HUGS! John TALKS! John SMILES! John LOVES! Although his speech is not very good- he can communicate. He is able to read a sentence, he is good at counting, summing and subtracting. His first word when he was 3,5 was COCONUT- because I used to put a coconut oil onto his entire body 5 times a day to reduce the pain caused by severe atopic dermatitis. He is the most open-hearted kid ever- he will give you everything just to make you smile. He looks into people's eyes! He can't stop moving because of his hyperactivity, FAS and autism, but we train every day to let his body and brain rest for a while. This year he was operated because of urine bladder birth defect but he was extremely brave as always. He is still obsessed with food but now he doesn't cry in front of the fridge as he used to. I always have to cook a large amount of everything- just to make him sure that the food will always be there. Last autumn he asked if we had prepared enough food because winter is coming:)
Kate (adopted- 7,5y, now 12,5y)- she was starved and hit with hard objects, she couldn't read and write, she was mean, manipulative and extremely aggressive (especially towards her little brothers- she used to punch them in the face, kick and hurt). NOW Kate is an average teenager! She answers back, doesn't tidy up her room, listens to pop music, has "problems"- what to wear to look good, maybe I am too fat, etc :) At the same time she behaves like a little girl whose girlhood was stolen- she plays with dolls, likes to be hugged and treated as a little kid. We love it! She loves reading- the biggest punishment is a threat of signing her out from the library. UPDATE- recently Kate has met her worst enemy- REGRESSION and she returned to earlier stage of development. Being one of the best students in her school- eager to learn, asking us for help, dreaming of being an architect, caring about other people- it is now over. She cuts her forearms, wants to kill herself, wants to harm her brothers, pushes us about, we look after her all the time- she spends no time alone due to her instable emotional state. BUT- YOU KNOW WHAT? We are fighting for her and we will always do!
ABOUT US
Anna (39y) and Dan (39y)- happily married, both high school teachers, both form tutors, both keen on books and good music, both engaged in volunteer work, both help everybody in need, both work with young people who trust them, both can't imagine living without being active and without love. We love our life though some people say that it must be very hard with our „special” children- but they are wrong. Our life is just different. Our kids don't wake up- they just open their eyes and start running all over the place. After 5 years they still shout "Mummy is coming" or "Daddy is coming" even if we are out for only 15 minutes. Sometimes we wonder if their main goal in life is to eat- they consume loads of everything and after every meal ask about the next one. Fortunately, Ann really likes cooking and she cooks healthy and well. We teach our kids how to share and help because they are now safe and there are so many other kids who are not and still suffer. Therefore our whole family engage in WOSP project- the biggest charity event in Poland. Every winter we collect money for sick children and the elderly. Anna is a blood donor and a potential blood stem cell donor. Dan loves nature and takes kids for a very long trips. Last summer he finished his project- he rebuilt the playground, because our kids wanted to have more fun-now the have a four-meter-high climbing wall, a fifty-meter-long aerial ropeslide, and many others:). We have 1 dog (also found abandoned near the river) and 7 cats which are constantly attacked with love especially by Tom.
FAS- Fetal alcohol spectrum are a group of conditions that can occur in a person whose mother drank alcohol during pregnancy. People with FAS can have problems with learning, memory, attention span, communication, vision, or hearing. They might have a mix of these problems. People with FAS often have a hard time in school and trouble getting along with others.
RAD- Reactive attachment disorder is a condition in which a child does not form a secure, healthy emotional bond with his or her primary caretakers (parental figures). Children with RAD often have trouble managing their emotions. They struggle to form meaningful connections with other people. They expressing ange, have tantrums, are irritable, unhappy and sad, disobedient.
Names have been changed to protect the family's safety.
Organizer
Angelika Gawlik
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