Help a Disabled Enby get away from Abuse
Donation protected
We're a polycule of people looking to help our friend, and partner, move out of their neglectful, emotionally, physically, and financially abusive household. Strawberry is a very kind, caring, and loyal person who is always there for their loved ones - they are currently looking to move out and plan to move in with two other members of the polycule. We wanted to set up a go-fund-me to cover the costs of moving from California to Florida with the goal that anything raised will be going towards the cost of moving - and left over funds will go towards furniture, clothing, food and other necessities until they can get on disability once they arrive in Florida.
Here is Strawberry’s statement on the situation:
Hi! I'm Strawberry, I'm normally not one to ask for help, especially when it comes to finances, but as a disabled person that currently has no income and is unable to work this is my only option. I'm 20-years-old, nonbinary, autistic and disabled with a variety of mental and physical disabilities such as a Herniated Spinal Disc, Undiagnosed Chronic Pain, ADHD, C-PTSD, Depression, Psychosis, and an Unspecified Dissociative Disorder which often times causes me to be unable to move, bed-ridden or house-bound, and sick from the pain. Overall, my disabilities leave me unable to work or attend school. I'm currently in the process of applying for disability but between a lack of support at home, financial abuse from my mother, and COVID-19 causing a huge back-log in applications makes it very difficult to get financial aid. Not only that, but as anyone that knows the process for disability is aware, it isn't a quick, smooth, or easy process to begin with. Let alone much for money once my application is actually approved.
Due to the neglect and abuse, my mother has been negatively affecting my health and adding to my trauma on a daily basis. She is emotionally, physically, and financially abusive on top of being neglectful and has been for as long as I can remember. She is ableist, transphobic and conservative to the point where she has stated she would disown me if I didn't vote republican - each day living here is like walking on eggshells. I regularly fear getting in trouble and subsequently being yelled at and deal with the potential of getting hit. I have gotten increasingly more worried about getting kicked out as she's threatened me with homelessness on several occasions for not agreeing with her, not doing what she wants me to do and how she wants me to, and even for calling out transphobic, ableist, and racist behavior. Her neglect is to the point that asking for any necessities is a struggle - I have to fight to be able to get food that's safe for me to eat, medical care, and even to get clothing that fits properly. In the past, her neglect has even led to me being sexually abused by multiple of her partners. Currently, I have to rely on her entirely both financially and in terms of transportation, and my entire family including my step-father and extended family enable her control and abuse. I struggle to make appointments and reach out for help (having little to no support from my family) and the longer I stay here the worse my health - physical and mental - gets because of it.
I have been able to outline a plan to get out of my current home and eventually cut ties with my family, but even so money is an issue and that is why I've chosen to reach out this way. As stated before, I don't have an income and even if I were to get approved for disability it's very difficult to save money on social security and could take months, to years, to save up enough to get out with that alone. Currently, I need to raise enough money to drive me, and my stuff, across the United States to be able to move in with two people who I consider more of a family than my blood relatives could ever dream to be. Unfortunately, a drive to Florida from California is expensive, and I won't be able to do this until I have a safe amount of money to pay for a car rental, gas, hotels and whatever else may be needed for the drive. I've already been told from my mother that I won't be getting any financial aid from her on this - despite the fact she's very insistent, pushy, and seemingly excited for me to get out of her house. There isn't a set deadline for this, however; I would very much like to be out of here before the end of March 2021 if at all possible. I really don't want to turn 21 while living here. Anything that's donated will be spent on the cost of moving, and anything left over will go towards making sure I can get furniture, clothing, food and other necessities while in Florida until I'm able to get on food-stamps or disability there. If you can donate or boost this it would mean so much to me. I need to get out of here for my mental and physical health, and above all else, to feel safe. So, anything helps. Thank you in advance.
Here is Strawberry’s statement on the situation:
Hi! I'm Strawberry, I'm normally not one to ask for help, especially when it comes to finances, but as a disabled person that currently has no income and is unable to work this is my only option. I'm 20-years-old, nonbinary, autistic and disabled with a variety of mental and physical disabilities such as a Herniated Spinal Disc, Undiagnosed Chronic Pain, ADHD, C-PTSD, Depression, Psychosis, and an Unspecified Dissociative Disorder which often times causes me to be unable to move, bed-ridden or house-bound, and sick from the pain. Overall, my disabilities leave me unable to work or attend school. I'm currently in the process of applying for disability but between a lack of support at home, financial abuse from my mother, and COVID-19 causing a huge back-log in applications makes it very difficult to get financial aid. Not only that, but as anyone that knows the process for disability is aware, it isn't a quick, smooth, or easy process to begin with. Let alone much for money once my application is actually approved.
Due to the neglect and abuse, my mother has been negatively affecting my health and adding to my trauma on a daily basis. She is emotionally, physically, and financially abusive on top of being neglectful and has been for as long as I can remember. She is ableist, transphobic and conservative to the point where she has stated she would disown me if I didn't vote republican - each day living here is like walking on eggshells. I regularly fear getting in trouble and subsequently being yelled at and deal with the potential of getting hit. I have gotten increasingly more worried about getting kicked out as she's threatened me with homelessness on several occasions for not agreeing with her, not doing what she wants me to do and how she wants me to, and even for calling out transphobic, ableist, and racist behavior. Her neglect is to the point that asking for any necessities is a struggle - I have to fight to be able to get food that's safe for me to eat, medical care, and even to get clothing that fits properly. In the past, her neglect has even led to me being sexually abused by multiple of her partners. Currently, I have to rely on her entirely both financially and in terms of transportation, and my entire family including my step-father and extended family enable her control and abuse. I struggle to make appointments and reach out for help (having little to no support from my family) and the longer I stay here the worse my health - physical and mental - gets because of it.
I have been able to outline a plan to get out of my current home and eventually cut ties with my family, but even so money is an issue and that is why I've chosen to reach out this way. As stated before, I don't have an income and even if I were to get approved for disability it's very difficult to save money on social security and could take months, to years, to save up enough to get out with that alone. Currently, I need to raise enough money to drive me, and my stuff, across the United States to be able to move in with two people who I consider more of a family than my blood relatives could ever dream to be. Unfortunately, a drive to Florida from California is expensive, and I won't be able to do this until I have a safe amount of money to pay for a car rental, gas, hotels and whatever else may be needed for the drive. I've already been told from my mother that I won't be getting any financial aid from her on this - despite the fact she's very insistent, pushy, and seemingly excited for me to get out of her house. There isn't a set deadline for this, however; I would very much like to be out of here before the end of March 2021 if at all possible. I really don't want to turn 21 while living here. Anything that's donated will be spent on the cost of moving, and anything left over will go towards making sure I can get furniture, clothing, food and other necessities while in Florida until I'm able to get on food-stamps or disability there. If you can donate or boost this it would mean so much to me. I need to get out of here for my mental and physical health, and above all else, to feel safe. So, anything helps. Thank you in advance.
Organizer and beneficiary
Jaden R
Organizer
Jacksonville, FL
Sara Sheppard
Beneficiary