Help my dad pay for my moms medical bills
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Hello Everyone,
In April 2019, my mom got diagnosed with ovarian cancer. She and her brother both got diagnosed about two months apart, but he shortly passed away around three months after. She was fighting her battle against cancer for almost two years, but lost on December 29, 2020. My mom never once complained about having cancer or wanted to give up. She always wanted to get her treatment and never lost courage.
After many treatments, we saw that it wasn't working. She had went on different chemo therapies and different pills that then caused her a lot of pain. More pain that she has ever experienced. She developed sores in her mouth, inability to walk, which then progressed to the inability to even get out of bed. Then, as she proceeded on, we found out that the cancer spread to her liver, then to her abdomen, then onto her lymph nodes. There was nothing more scary than having to see her in so much pain and not being able to do anything about it. But even with knowing this, she kept a smile on her face.
She continued on to her different treatments that her doctor advised her, but of course, there is only so much that can be done. Time went by, and she had another doctors appointment, but we got the news that there is nothing else that they can do for her. The cancer got so bad and keep spreading. Her immune system was so weak and wouldn't be able to recover if she got anything else done. She accepted it, and we made sure to keep her as comfortable and pain free for the rest of the days. Family came to say their goodbyes; with their masks on. They talked with her and laughed and cried, but this was exactly what she wanted. All of her friends were able to come to our house and share memories and it was beautiful. Although it was hard to do during covid, we were able to FaceTime and let her friends and family come while staying within the covid restrictions.
She underwent many hardships throughout her life, including an aneurism when my sister and I were in elementary school that could have easily taken her life if it wasn't caught earlier. She is the strongest most persevering woman I know and I'm proud that she was our mom.
My dad made sure to always keep up with her complicated medication schedule that consisted of over 5 medications an hour. In her last days, my dad gave her pain medications around the clock as needed and got her an oxygen tank as well so that she didn't have a hard time breathing. It was so hard to see us losing our mom as each day went by, but we knew that we didn't want her to suffer anymore. As time went on, it was only more and more painful and it shattered everyones hearts to see her like that. We tried our best to keep her pain free but with her pain medications, she then stopped eating and drinking and we knew that her time was coming to an end. It got more and more difficult, but we had to be there for her every step of the way. She then wasn't able to speak or keep her eyes open, but we all kept her company. We told her we loved her, held her hand, brushed her hair, kissed her head and cried for her.
My dad has been there for her since day one. They were married for 22 years, with their anniversary date being December 26, 1998. He was her number one supporter. He would drop everything for her and wanted to make sure that he did everything that he could for her. My dad always made sure that she was getting the best treatment and would always check on her. My mom ended up having an ostomy bag, which is a bag that is connected to her abdomen that collected her fecal matter and my dad always made sure to change it for her and keep her comfortable. He took her to her hospital appointments, got her whatever she wanted, like snacks, and meals because he wanted to make sure that she was happy. It was also hard on him because he has a job, and two daughters. That being my sister and I. He had to make sure to take care of us and her while he was at the hospital day and night. He dedicated all of his time for her and was always on top of everything. Because this happened during the pandemic, my sister and I were unable to come with him because of the safety precautions. It was really hard on us because we wanted to be there for her too. But, we would FaceTime her every night and make sure she's doing okay. The hospital only allowed one person a day and with my sister and I home, we had to make sure that we were also being safe as well.
My dad worked so hard and it's been even harder now because with my mom and him working before, they were able to pay the bills with ease. Now, my dad has to pay all the bills by himself. He already works hard as it is and it's only becoming harder and harder. It's difficult to watch your only parent suffer with money when it's not easy to get a job during this time. My sister was able to get a job and is going to try to work more to help pay for some of the bills. After my mom passed away, my dad received numerous medical bills for my mom; multiple ambulance bills, treatment bills, scans, car insurance etc. And while he was busy looking after my mom, he hadn't noticed that they didn't pay the electrical bill for three months. It came out to a lot and the bills only started flowing more and more from then.
This is our family. We both decided to make this GoFundMe fundraiser because we saw how much my dad is struggling to make ends meet and we can really use the financial support. Especially during this time, I know it's hard for many families to keep their heads above the water.
We are asking for as much help that we can get. It doesn't matter how much you can donate, any amount that is donated by you will help a significant amount. This would help pay off my moms medical bills, keep a roof over our heads, food in our stomach, and clothes on our backs. We are so appreciative of all the donations and people who learn about my mom. Cancer is one heck of a disease that no one deserves getting.
We miss our mom so very much and hope she knows how much she impacted many peoples' lives. Thank you everyone who took the time to read this and is able to help my family out.
Thank you for your love and generosity.
-Kaitlyn Honda and Sarah Honda
In April 2019, my mom got diagnosed with ovarian cancer. She and her brother both got diagnosed about two months apart, but he shortly passed away around three months after. She was fighting her battle against cancer for almost two years, but lost on December 29, 2020. My mom never once complained about having cancer or wanted to give up. She always wanted to get her treatment and never lost courage.
After many treatments, we saw that it wasn't working. She had went on different chemo therapies and different pills that then caused her a lot of pain. More pain that she has ever experienced. She developed sores in her mouth, inability to walk, which then progressed to the inability to even get out of bed. Then, as she proceeded on, we found out that the cancer spread to her liver, then to her abdomen, then onto her lymph nodes. There was nothing more scary than having to see her in so much pain and not being able to do anything about it. But even with knowing this, she kept a smile on her face. She continued on to her different treatments that her doctor advised her, but of course, there is only so much that can be done. Time went by, and she had another doctors appointment, but we got the news that there is nothing else that they can do for her. The cancer got so bad and keep spreading. Her immune system was so weak and wouldn't be able to recover if she got anything else done. She accepted it, and we made sure to keep her as comfortable and pain free for the rest of the days. Family came to say their goodbyes; with their masks on. They talked with her and laughed and cried, but this was exactly what she wanted. All of her friends were able to come to our house and share memories and it was beautiful. Although it was hard to do during covid, we were able to FaceTime and let her friends and family come while staying within the covid restrictions.
She underwent many hardships throughout her life, including an aneurism when my sister and I were in elementary school that could have easily taken her life if it wasn't caught earlier. She is the strongest most persevering woman I know and I'm proud that she was our mom.
My dad made sure to always keep up with her complicated medication schedule that consisted of over 5 medications an hour. In her last days, my dad gave her pain medications around the clock as needed and got her an oxygen tank as well so that she didn't have a hard time breathing. It was so hard to see us losing our mom as each day went by, but we knew that we didn't want her to suffer anymore. As time went on, it was only more and more painful and it shattered everyones hearts to see her like that. We tried our best to keep her pain free but with her pain medications, she then stopped eating and drinking and we knew that her time was coming to an end. It got more and more difficult, but we had to be there for her every step of the way. She then wasn't able to speak or keep her eyes open, but we all kept her company. We told her we loved her, held her hand, brushed her hair, kissed her head and cried for her.
My dad has been there for her since day one. They were married for 22 years, with their anniversary date being December 26, 1998. He was her number one supporter. He would drop everything for her and wanted to make sure that he did everything that he could for her. My dad always made sure that she was getting the best treatment and would always check on her. My mom ended up having an ostomy bag, which is a bag that is connected to her abdomen that collected her fecal matter and my dad always made sure to change it for her and keep her comfortable. He took her to her hospital appointments, got her whatever she wanted, like snacks, and meals because he wanted to make sure that she was happy. It was also hard on him because he has a job, and two daughters. That being my sister and I. He had to make sure to take care of us and her while he was at the hospital day and night. He dedicated all of his time for her and was always on top of everything. Because this happened during the pandemic, my sister and I were unable to come with him because of the safety precautions. It was really hard on us because we wanted to be there for her too. But, we would FaceTime her every night and make sure she's doing okay. The hospital only allowed one person a day and with my sister and I home, we had to make sure that we were also being safe as well. My dad worked so hard and it's been even harder now because with my mom and him working before, they were able to pay the bills with ease. Now, my dad has to pay all the bills by himself. He already works hard as it is and it's only becoming harder and harder. It's difficult to watch your only parent suffer with money when it's not easy to get a job during this time. My sister was able to get a job and is going to try to work more to help pay for some of the bills. After my mom passed away, my dad received numerous medical bills for my mom; multiple ambulance bills, treatment bills, scans, car insurance etc. And while he was busy looking after my mom, he hadn't noticed that they didn't pay the electrical bill for three months. It came out to a lot and the bills only started flowing more and more from then.
This is our family. We both decided to make this GoFundMe fundraiser because we saw how much my dad is struggling to make ends meet and we can really use the financial support. Especially during this time, I know it's hard for many families to keep their heads above the water. We are asking for as much help that we can get. It doesn't matter how much you can donate, any amount that is donated by you will help a significant amount. This would help pay off my moms medical bills, keep a roof over our heads, food in our stomach, and clothes on our backs. We are so appreciative of all the donations and people who learn about my mom. Cancer is one heck of a disease that no one deserves getting.
We miss our mom so very much and hope she knows how much she impacted many peoples' lives. Thank you everyone who took the time to read this and is able to help my family out.
Thank you for your love and generosity.
-Kaitlyn Honda and Sarah Honda
Organizer and beneficiary
Kaitlyn Honda
Organizer
Mililani, HI
Sarah Honda
Beneficiary
