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Babyen din - stjålet! - The Stolen Baby!

English text below

Tenk deg ...

Du blir gravid. Og gleden er stor.

Du har drømt om å bli mor.

 

Men så kommer barnevernet inn i livet ditt. Du har jo en diagnose!

MS (Multippel Sklerose)

Og barnevernet bryr seg ikke med at du har en mild, atypisk variant. At du sist hadde et anfall i 2013.

Barnevernet krever at du skal ta en evnetest. Og selv om du er høygravid og stressa, så skårer du innenfor normalområdet. Da syns ikke BVT at resultatet er så interessant lenger.

 

 

Bilde: Callum Skelton

 

Hvordan ville du følt deg?

Sint?

Redd?

Panisk?

Bare vent. Det blir verre.

 

Barnevernet krever at du og barnefaren skal ta med den lille jenta på "familiehjem" for støtte og hjelp. Hvis ikke så vil de reise sak om omsorgsovertakelse. Men du får hverken støtte eller hjelp.

 

Så gir barnevernet barnefaren et ultimatum. "Du må velge mellom mor eller barn".

Men det ble for vanskelig for ham å ha omsorgen for en liten jente. Så en slektning overtar omsorgen.

Det kunne vært en god, midlertidig løsning.

 

Men her kommer det aller, aller verste: du får ikke kontakt med den lille, nydelige jenta di før hun fyller to år! Ikke noe samvær.

Ingen bursdager.

Ingen julaftener.

Ingen trilleturer i parken.

 

 

 

Bilde: HRU

Jeg har selv tre barn. Og jeg er barnevernspedagog. Blant Norges mest offentlige - hvis du vil møte meg, så kan du søke om å bli med i Facebook-gruppen min, Spør en barnevernpedagog. Du kan også søke på "mAncient" og "Håkon Rian Ueland" på Google, så finner du meg.

 

Hvis noen hadde behandlet meg slik som denne moren har blitt behandlet ...

 

Jeg har sett mange tilfeller av offentlig overtramp.

Men dette er noe av det aller, aller verste jeg har sett.

 

Uansett.

Moren får etter hvert samvær. Under tilsyn. Uten noen god grunn til tilsynet.

Uten at barnevernet har noe annet vedtak enn et tidlig akuttvedtak, på grunnlag av noen tvilsomme bekymringsmeldinger.

Så hun kjemper i retten og i Fylkesnemnda.

Siste gang får hun utvidet samvær - ti ganger i året á tre timer.

Men slektningen saboterer samværene.

Nå har moren fått nok. Hun har mistet foreldreansvaret. Hun har blitt tråkket på.

Men hun reiser seg, og skal i møte med et nytt advokatfirma.

En slik prosess koster penger. Og det er her du kommer inn. Har du noen kroner å avse?

 

 

Budsjett:

Advokatarbeidet koster mellom 80-100.000,-. Moren er uføretrygdet, og ligger like over grensen for fri rettshjelp. Vi har et godt team - en erfaren advokat innen barnevern, og en advokatfullmektig som har vært lege i 20 år.

Jeg jobber heller ikke gratis.

5 % av alt som kommer inn, går til GoFundMe. Spleis nektet forresten å ta inn fundraiser-en. De har en "policy".

De resterende 95% vil gå til å skape rettferdighet for det lille barnet og moren.

Del gjerne!

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English text:

Imagine ...

You're pregnant. JOY!

You have dreamt of becoming a mother.

But then child welfare comes into your life. You have a diagnosis...

MS (Multiple Sclerosis).

And the child welfare service does not care that you have a mild, atypical variant. That you last had a seizure in 2013.

The child welfare service asks you to take a cognitive test. You are in the last trimester and stressed, so your score is not optimal. Imagine ...having to prove that you are smart enough to keep your baby?

How would you feel?

Angry?
Afraid?
Panicked?
Just wait. It gets worse.

She is taken to a temporary foster home when she is 8 days old. The foster home make claims that any child psychology specialist would find highly dubious:

Using something called Neonatal Behavioral Observation System (NBO), which was intended as an observational model examining the relationship between parent and newborn, this was one of the foster home's observations:

When performing NBO, the girl showed on a couple of occasions that she was overwhelmed and needed support.
She showed signs of being uncomfortable by hiccuping, turning away and wandering with her eyes.
It is important that the girl has caregivers who are sensitive in relation to the girl's threshold for stimulation and activity, so that the caregivers can give her adapted support when similar situations arise.

Would you be concerned if your days-old child hiccuped, turned away and had "wandering eyes"? Could it be that she had a tummy ache, and wasn't "overwhelmed"? Or that being taken from her mother and father was a traumatic experience?

Child welfare services demands that you and the father of the child bring her to a so called "family-home". If not, they will sue for custody.

There, you are told you will get support and guidance.
But - you are put under scrutiny since day 1.
After 14 days, you are asked to move out, and the father stays for three more months.

The child welfare service gives the father an ultimatum. "You must choose between mother or child".

He chose the child. Then, it became too difficult for him to have sole custody. So his mother steps in.

It could be a good, temporary solution.

But then: you do not get to see your beautiful girl until she is nearly two. No birthdays. No Christmas Eve. No walks in the park.

There are reasons that the Norwegian Child Welfare System have had 40 cases in the European Court of Human Rights

I have three children. And I'm a child welfare worker. Among Norway's most public - I have Facebook group, "Ask a child welfare educator" - "Spør en barnevernpedagog"  (Norwegian group) with more than 3k members, sharing. You can also search for "mAncient" and "Håkon Rian Ueland" on Google, and you will find me.

I have seen many cases of systems-abuse. But this is one of the worst. 

Eventually, the mother gets to see her child. Supervised. Three times per year, for two hours. Child Protection Services are still involved in the case, even though they have no formal role. And she loses her parental rights.

I have known the mother for close to two years. I have witnessed her fight. I have heard her cry. I have seen how she has wanted to give up. I have spoken with her father, who has all but given up. With her boyfriend, who trusts her implicitly when it comes to being a step-mum to his own daughter.

It is time to give her back her dignity. To start the road towards uniting mother and child. In a closely supervised process that takes into account the attachment the girl has made with the "unofficial" foster mother.

Our budget:

The legal team: $9-11.000. If the case needs to go to Strasbourg, this will be higher. This team consists of a lawyer and a legal assistant (who is also an MD with 20 years of experience) from Advokatfirmaet Andenæs.

My own work: I have donated my time for two years now. There are limits to how long I can work pro bono. It is difficult to estimate how much time I will have to use, but to illustrate: the paperwork alone is 1300 pages ... and before the process in the appeal court, I will have to read it all. So a conservative estimate is the same as for the legal team.

Accountant: I have a good accountant in mind. Will update once I have negotiated a price.

I appreciate all shares, comments and suggestions. All donations are processed through Stripe, and deposited into my client account in DNB, company name Earth House.

Thank you for reading. Thank you for caring. And thank you for your donation!

 

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Håkon Rian Ueland
Organizer
Oslo

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